What Happened?!

Not that I'm currently looking, but being newly single I'm finding some very interesting changes in the dating world.

1- Since when did people start asking people out through text messages and not even that...it's called "hanging out" these days.

2- There have always been these arbitrary rules that apply to "dating" like 'don't call for 3 days' after the first date, "don't call me, I'll call you"...ridiculous things like that. But now apparently if you send a guy/gal a text and say they take an hour to respond...apparently you now text them back double the time AFTER they text you...so in this case you wouldn't respond for 2 hours! Really?! WTH?! When did this happen, and when did dating or "hanging out" become wayyy more complicated than it was in the past?

3- I understand that we are in a texting world now...I get it, and I'll admit that I enjoy a good text like anybody else, but there's nothing like the instant gratification of a phone call. You get all the info/interaction you need in that phone call...as opposed to a text you may or may not get a response to. BUT during a phone call people don't just stop talking mid-conversation...but apparently this is common practice in the texting world. Not saying I'm not guilty of it sometimes, but I really try to communicate in a timely manner...and usually, I'd pick phone calls/face to face interaction over text messages any day.

4- Getting to know someone now happens more often through text messages or emailing on facebook...wah wah!! What happened to face to face interaction? Don't get me wrong...there are some people out there that you just don't want to really talk to in person...for example a bad date, or that annoying guy you're trying to avoid...lol...it happens, but again like I've said before there's nothing like getting to know someone in person or just spending time with those you care about. Sometimes for me it's a hassle to get there...like getting ready and actually getting to the destination, but 9 times out of 10 I usually have a really great time and end up really happy that I went out and laughed, and made new memories.

However, with all of this said...I don't have a huge dating record...for whatever reason, the guys said they were/are "intimidated" by me (what does that even mean??), or the guys ended up dating my friends lol. So maybe I don't know "proper" dating protocol. Well, I guess I'll be finding out more and more as I go through this journey called life. :)

But for those of you who are single, have you noticed the same things? And even my friends who are in relationships...what about you?

Peace and Love,

Kandyce Marie

We are a Family, Like a Giant Tree

Sunday July 15th marked a HUGE day for the Cameron family. We finally met our long lost brother Jason. :)

A lot of emotions had gone through me when I first heard about him. It was strange to me to think that I had another brother out there that I was NOT close to. If you know me, you know that I am ALL about my family and that I love and adore my brothers and sisters so much. So much that I consider them to be my best friends. We have been through sooo much together both good and bad and we always come out of any situation together and stronger than ever. So to think that I had another sibling that wasn't a part of that was really sad to me.

Well we finally met and all of my nervous emotions that I had concerning the situation went away when I met Jason. There's NO DOUBT that he's a Cameron!! He is funny, handsome, TALL, wears glasses, smart, and such a loving man. It's crazy to me that I now have 3 baby brothers, and 2 baby sisters, and now a nephew!! Hopefully I'll be meeting my nephew soon. :)

But for now, we are all planning on getting together again this week to spend more time together while we bowl. Should be fun.

Peace and Love,

Kandyce Marie

New Chapter. New Beginnings!

Well it has been a while since I've last blogged. A lot has changed, and a lot has happened since I was an avid blogger. I don't even know if people really "blog" anymore. But, for those that do, welcome back to my world.

To start...as I have mentioned a lot has changed for me. Most of you now know that I am no longer married. If you didn't know...then yes, you have heard correct...I am divorced. Single.

I finally feel comfortable enough to say it out loud without feeling like I'm the worst person in the world.

There were and still are a lot of assumptions as to why and I'm not going to go into details online, but know that both James and I felt it was the best decision for us. I know for me, I really learned a lot and to those almost 7 years I will always be truly grateful to James for what I learned.

Going through divorce was and is hard. I'm not going to sugar coat it, it was HARD. Besides the obvious of losing a partner...for me I struggled, and still do, with the words, and thoughts of others that know I'm no longer married. I cared and cared about what people thought of me:

Was it her fault?
What happened?
They're bad people for divorcing...
She didn't try hard enough...
Oh it had to have been her career in the arts...
Blah blah blah...

I've recently come to terms with the idea of..."why battle in my head something I have no control over?"

This has actually been a constant struggle that I've dealt with almost my entire life. You would think that after 28 years of life that you would have the concept of "don't care what others think" down. But I'm learning that it's not as easy as it sounds. I admire those that truly can put people's words aside and not let it effect them. It is something that I am truly learning every single day...which is hilarious to me that I am in the business of entertainment where I am judged and critiqued every time I step on a stage. :)

But just know, that I am doing well. I have leaned on a lot of my family and friends and am so grateful to them for their love and support. I too have lost friends due to assumptions or them thinking that because I'm divorced that I am now a "bad person." But you know what...that's ok. Those people are allowed to feel and think whatever they want, but I don't have to let it effect me.

For so long I've lived my life for other people due to being afraid of what they would think of me...and you know what...I'm not saying that it'll be easy and that it'll happen over night, but it's time to start living for me, for God, and for those that I love/love me in my life.

I really could go on and on about this, but I am happy to finally have my eyes open...and ever since my eyes have been opened sooo much good has entered my life.

In other news...I've been very blessed with the opportunity to travel parts of the world while doing what I love...performing. Performing has been a great healer for me, and continues to be a great healer. I truly am grateful to God for giving me the opportunities that I have had and continue to have, and that he has given me the gift of singing.

I have actually been offered another contract where I have been cast as a Production Cast Principal Singer. This time I'll be touring Europe. I leave in August for rehearsals and board the ship in Venice in September. :) I can't wait to see what these next 7 months have in store for me.

Peace and Love,

Kandyce Marie